tend

Who haven't you talked to in a while?

Tend is a small Mac app for keeping in touch with the people who matter. Once a week it asks who you talked to. Then it shows you, gently, who's starting to drift.

Free · For Mac · Your list never leaves your computer · Buy me a coffee ☕

Tend's People screen: cards for each friend, showing when you last talked and met, and who is drifting.

The people in these pictures are made up.

Every week · about a minute

Two questions. That's it.

Who did you talk to this week? Who did you see in person? Type a few letters of a name and press Enter. Tend remembers the rest, so you don't have to keep a diary.

The weekly check-in: who did you talk to, and who did you meet up with.

Each person is a plant

See who needs a little water.

Friends you're in touch with bloom. The ones you haven't called in a while start to wilt. Your closest people can wilt after a month, old friends after a year. You decide what feels right.

One friend's page in Tend, with a planned call, their city and how often you'd like to talk.

Small app. Thoughtful details.

Plan the next call

Put a call or a dinner on someone's page. Tend shows what's coming up, and ticks it off when you log it.

Friends everywhere

Add the cities people live in, then see everyone in Lisbon before your trip.

Close, warm, occasional

Sort people into circles, each with its own pace. Nobody gets a guilt trip they don't deserve.

Skip a season

Need a break from someone for a few months? Snooze them, and they won't show as drifting.

Private by design

No account, no cloud, no tracking. Everything stays on your Mac, in a folder you can see.

Backed up every day

Tend saves a copy each day it's open, and another in your own iCloud Drive.

Get Tend

Tend is a small independent app, so the first time you open it your Mac asks you to confirm you trust it. You only do this once.

  1. 1

    Download & unzip

    Open the downloaded file. Move the Tend folder somewhere you'll keep it, like Documents.

  2. 2

    Open it once

    Double-click Open Tend. Your Mac will say it can't check it. Click Done.

  3. 3

    Allow it

    Go to System Settings → Privacy & Security, scroll down and click Open Anyway.

  4. 4

    One last install

    If your Mac offers to install developer tools, click Install and wait a few minutes. Then open Tend again.

Tend opens in your web browser, but runs only on your Mac. After the first time, just double-click Open Tend.

Free, and made with care

Tend is free for everyone. If it helps you call someone you'd been meaning to, you can say thanks with a coffee. It keeps the app growing.

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